{"id":479,"date":"2019-02-05T00:27:38","date_gmt":"2019-02-05T00:27:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/?p=479"},"modified":"2020-06-26T22:09:42","modified_gmt":"2020-06-26T22:09:42","slug":"2019-2-4-how-we-met-part-two-his-perspective","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/?p=479","title":{"rendered":"How We Met (Part two: HIM)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div\n        class=\"\n          image-block-outer-wrapper\n          layout-caption-below\n          design-layout-inline\n          combination-animation-none\n          individual-animation-none\n          individual-text-animation-none\n        \"\n        data-test=\"image-block-inline-outer-wrapper\"\n    ><\/p>\n<figure\n            class=\"\n              sqs-block-image-figure\n              intrinsic\n            \"\n            style=\"max-width:1028.0px;\"\n        ><\/p>\n<div\n              \n                style=\"padding-bottom:88.34951782226562%;\"\n              \n              class=\"\n                image-block-wrapper\n                \n          \n        \n                has-aspect-ratio\n              \"\n              data-animation-role=\"image\"\n              \n  \n\n          ><br \/>\n            <noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_5050.jpg\" alt=\"IMG_5050.jpg\" \/><\/noscript><img class=\"thumb-image\" data-src=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_5050.jpg\" data-image=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_5050.jpg\" data-image-dimensions=\"1028x1132\" data-image-focal-point=\"0.5,0.5\" alt=\"IMG_5050.jpg\" data-load=\"false\" data-image-id=\"5c58d11471c10b4c84261b92\" data-type=\"image\" \/>\n          <\/div>\n<\/figure><\/div>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">I am grateful for this opportunity Arielle has given me to share these words with you. &nbsp;Many of you have been following her writing &amp; journey for quite some time.  I see this as a beautiful opportunity for you to see her through my eyes. &nbsp;For those of you reading this that are apart of my tribe will gain a glimpse into this new season of life.  My hope is that many new friends will be made as our communities begin to interweave. <\/p>\n<h1 style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"> My name is John Corfee. <\/h1>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">Yes, just like coffee but with a R and I am a barista. &nbsp;Most of my friends call me by my last name or even just Corf for short. &nbsp;Hence, jCorf on Instagram.  I am fascinated by theology, history, music, baseball &amp; laughter. &nbsp;I oftentimes seek out what brings people together.  I generally dream big and get lost in deep intentional thoughts. &nbsp;One of my role models, Jim Carrey put it best when he said, &#8220;I wish everybody could have all of their dreams come true so they could realize that&#8217;s not the answer.&#8221; &nbsp;My hope in sharing Arielle and I\u2019s story with you is to champion love stories that are creative &amp; intentional, but somehow feel like a dream. <\/p>\n<h1 style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>The word of the year for 2018 in my life was timing. <\/em><\/h1>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">&nbsp;I sought to focus on the here &amp; now. Often times, anxiety stems from overthinking yesterday and tomorrow. &nbsp;During the summer of 2018 I spent my time in observation of my surroundings. <em> I wonder if we miss many of the opportunities in front of us due to our overthinking. &nbsp;<\/em>The timing of Arielle &amp; I\u2019s meeting was nothing short of a dream come true.  Yet, not the dream that I was planning on happening anytime soon. <\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">Yes, our first introduction was through Instagram. I am fairly confident that Arielle and I could have met or crossed paths in many other ways. &nbsp;Though much of our initial interaction was digital, we owe our introduction to two beautiful humans.  My sister and best friend, Brittany, is a regular listener of Jamie Grace\u2019s podcast. <a href=\"https:\/\/anchor.fm\/waititout\/episodes\/Ft--Arielle-Estoria-Awkward-Flirting--Can-Girls-Ask-Guy-Out-e11pre\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">About a year ago Brittany heard Jamie interview Arielle about singleness and dating<\/a>. &nbsp;What follows is about as close as it gets to love at first sight.  Arielle\u2019s gifting in words and poetry comes from her relatability with those whom she connects.  <\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">It was late one night in July of last year when my sister Brittany sent me the video on IGTV of Arielle\u2019s poem \u201cThis is For You\u201d. &nbsp;Of course I was taken back by her beautiful smile, but more than that I felt a deep heart connection to her poem.  My first response to my sister consisted of plenty of absurd &amp; hopeful remarks: &nbsp;\u201cWho is this?  She\u2019s in LA, right? She\u2019s definitely my new crush.  I gotta meet her!\u201d  I could imagine my sister several hundred miles away laughing to herself.  In order to avoid coming on too strong, a simple follow on Instagram felt like the best starting point. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">I remember clearly the day that she messaged to invite me to her open mic. &nbsp;It was a simultaneous feeling of relief and shock.  I had already planned on making it out to one of her events eventually. &nbsp;I figured if we had already begun a conversation through Instagram I might as well look her up on Facebook.  The first thing that caught my attention was a RSVP to a Levi the Poet house show. &nbsp;I made sure to work into our already ongoing DM conversation that I was also interested in this show.  Though our actual conversation during this evening were brief, they were magical.  <em>Thank you, Levi. &nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">The following Friday evening Arielle walked into my coffee shop. &nbsp;I was sitting on the patio on my lunch break enjoying some time with a friend of mine. &nbsp;Of course I spent most of that time sharing with him about this beautiful woman I had recently met. &nbsp;Just as he asked me what the next steps looked like, she walked by and sat at the other table.<em>  Yes, that\u2019s beautiful timing.<\/em> <\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">The following weeks were filled with similar and oddly happenstance encounters with Arielle. Our first lengthy conversation was also spontaneous. &nbsp;I totally used the excuse of having forgot my laptop charger, to invite her to coffee.  Prior to that day I was still a victim to my old pattern of overthinking. &nbsp;I knew I desired to ask her on an actual date, but was determined that I should not be dating at all in this season.  I am glad that I decided to let go of those fears and take the time to be in LA early and ask her to coffee that day. &nbsp;It was the beautiful flow of our conversation that afternoon gave me the confidence to officially ask her out.  <\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">In hindsight I would like to believe that Childish Gambino took one for the (our) team when he injured his foot and had to postpone the concert tour. &nbsp;Though, if I am being honest I was more interested in seeing Gambino perform than I was going on a date with Arielle, but a picnic in Griffith Park is a <em>far <\/em>better first date. &nbsp;I will continue to share about some of our other adventures in future posts.  With that you can expect plenty of creative &amp; affordable date ideas. <\/p>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">For now I would like to leave you with some thoughts of reflection, and intention. &nbsp;I have learned so much from my time with Arielle.  Most of what she has given me is not through words or conversation, but through the giving of her time. &nbsp;The following age old saying is probably most applicable to relationships: <\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\">&#8220;you get out of it what you put into it.&#8221; <\/h1>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">Yes, our love story feels crazy &amp; unique. &nbsp;We seek after adventure together, while also continually showing up with ways to give to the other because&nbsp;<strong>Love requires sacrifice.<\/strong>  Richard Rohr said,<em> \u201cthe greatest form of inner transformation is great love and great suffering\u201d. <\/em><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Falling in love feels like a myth that is only found in storybooks. <\/em><\/h2>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">I am more and more unsure if we are meant to find a \u201csoulmate\u201d in this life. &nbsp;The Good news?  You create the love story. <strong> <\/strong><span style=\"text-decoration:underline\"><strong>More importantly, you create your story<\/strong><\/span><strong>.  <\/strong>Two individuals that laugh, eat, listen, walk alongside each other and grow together. <strong>That&#8217;s a love story.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>The most strange and yet beautiful thing happens when I am with Arielle. &nbsp;The whole world pauses.  <\/em><\/h2>\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">The concerns of yesterday, today or tomorrow fall. &nbsp;She focuses on being there for me despite uncertainties.  She constantly shows up in unexpected ways. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>No longer gonna fall in or out of love. <\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>I just wanna stay true to the now.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>No longer gonna fall in or out of love.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Just wanna stay here with you girl.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>No longer gonna fall in or out of love.<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>Just wanna hold your hand &amp; take care of your soul. <\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align:center;white-space:pre-wrap;\"><em>-jCorf<\/em><\/p>\n<p data-rte-preserve-empty=\"true\" style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">\n<p style=\"white-space:pre-wrap;\">My favorite love poem is still being written though. Each day Arielle will write a line and I will follow with my contribution. &nbsp;This the beginning of a wonderful story. I look forward to the coming opportunities to exchange stories with each and everyone of you. <\/p>\n<div\n        class=\"\n          image-block-outer-wrapper\n          layout-caption-below\n          design-layout-inline\n          combination-animation-none\n          individual-animation-none\n          individual-text-animation-none\n        \"\n        data-test=\"image-block-inline-outer-wrapper\"\n    ><\/p>\n<figure\n            class=\"\n              sqs-block-image-figure\n              intrinsic\n            \"\n            style=\"max-width:1374.0px;\"\n        ><\/p>\n<div\n              \n                style=\"padding-bottom:133.33334350585938%;\"\n              \n              class=\"\n                image-block-wrapper\n                \n          \n        \n                has-aspect-ratio\n              \"\n              data-animation-role=\"image\"\n              \n  \n\n          ><br \/>\n            <noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/image000001.jpg\" alt=\"image000001.jpg\" \/><\/noscript><img class=\"thumb-image\" data-src=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/image000001.jpg\" data-image=\"https:\/\/arielleestoria.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/image000001.jpg\" data-image-dimensions=\"1374x1832\" data-image-focal-point=\"0.5,0.5\" alt=\"image000001.jpg\" data-load=\"false\" data-image-id=\"5c58d6a2652dea0e90518a97\" data-type=\"image\" \/>\n          <\/div>\n<\/figure><\/div>\n<p>   <iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Aqm_FODFxiw?wmode=opaque&amp;enablejsapi=1\" height=\"480\" width=\"854\" scrolling=\"no\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"\"><br \/>\n<\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I am grateful for this opportunity Arielle has given me to share these words with you. &nbsp;Many of you have been following her writing &amp; journey for quite some time. 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